Make Some Time for Yourself! Go on, you Deserve It!
If you are like me, once you became a parent, “self-care” – seeing to your personal needs and interests – became a distant memory. Sometimes, it seems like more effort than it’s worth to take time for yourself. Still, as a professional therapist, I can tell you “self-care” is important. Here are some ideas for creating that elusive “me” time and space.
1. TO DO:
It’s satisfying to check tasks off a list. Be it laundry or groceries, why not add items for yourself? Maybe it’s simple, like flossing, or perhaps it requires more planning, like taking a class. Include the physical, mental and spiritual aspects of your life.
2. TO DON’T:
If finding the time to take care of yourself seems like a fantasy, have a look at your obligations to see if anything can be tweaked or cut. My husband found a lot of freedom at work when he learned the principle of a “To Don’t” list. Now his meetings include time to brainstorm what no longer needs to be done. You might not have to do all the things you think every good parent does.
Find a special room or nook with pleasing aesthetics and lighting. Have supplies for self-care handy: beloved books, a yoga mat and treats. This area might seem difficult to create, but it doesn’t have to be big. My friend has energetic sons and although she loves decorating, she has accepted that picture frames and vases have a very short, pardon the pun, shelf-life in her house. If this is the case for you, try a self-care drawer with personal effects and treasures at the ready.
Be it from family, friends or paid assistance, ask for help when you need it. Try trading off with a friend; this will give you some alone time and provide entertainment for your child when a new face comes to play.
5. BE CREATIVE:
Many household tasks can get dull so get creative! My friend and I got together recently and we prepped, cooked and made slow cooker meals to last a month in one afternoon. Get imaginative with the personal interests and hobbies you once enjoyed. Many a entrepreneur started with a desire to get back to her artistic passions.
Find some time for yourself starting today. Self care is not only good for you it is also good for those around you providing you with a chance to fill up your bucket before you attempt to fill everyone else's. It will also give you a sense of accomplishment and help you reconnect with your goals, interests and dreams. How do you make time for self-care?